The Over-Extended Military Wife. Or should I say Spouse? That word~spouse, a friend recently told me she hated that word. Spouse. It is so unfriendly and cold. But in the military. Really, we are spouses! Because there are not just wives anymore who hold down the fort. There are a bunch of stay at home, work from home and work along side the wife-DADs out there. We are one unit in my mind. All of the spouses of the military.
I feel there are not nearly enough support groups out there for those with deployed spouses. If there were enough resources, I would have heard about them already. And if someone sends me to militaryonesource.com one more time, I might start to gouge my eyeballs out.
There needs to be a web site or facebook page for support, community and tips and tricks for spouses of the deployed. If anyone knows of a big one and good one, free of drama, please comment on this blog or contact me via facebook to let me know about it! https://www.facebook.com/taohappinessdotcom
Otherwise, I have started a small one. We focus on NO sales, no gossip, no rules other than that we all have to be supportive and nice to one another. Of course my shtick is wellness. And so that is in there too. But it is not for selling or company purposes. The focus on wellness is for the mere fact that if we don't stay healthy, how are we EVER going to keep it together for our kids or household while we are the only ones running it? If you or someone you know wants support in this format, please go to this link and ask to join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/637179972959702/
As for me, I am keeping it together. -But just barely. I am getting better at being a lone parent every day, learning new tricks that WORK. People just don't understand, it is not their fault and the ones who do, just listen, which is awesome. But still doesn't make it any easier, really. What I foresee happening? -Is after about 8-10 months, I am going to get into a really awesome routine. I am going to finally be really organized and KNOW how to do this: how to take the trash out, bathe the kids, feed the kids healthy meals, on time and actually sit WITH them for their meals, pack lunches better, get them to school with no stress, have a clean house and mowed yard, oh yea, and clean body for myself (I have yet to figure out that last one mainly)! And just as I get it all down in a great design or symphony......he is going to return home. And then comes the adjustment period. Again.
I know there are resources out there. I am just saying....I don't think there are enough. If you are a spouse with a deployed service member and you need someone to talk to, I am here for you. I am two months into my first deployment and things were NOT good when he left. But I have stayed strong, healthy and have not been terribly negative about it! I am here for you too. And I created my own little support group for it. Each day I stop myself from going into that group and complaining about what was hard for me that day, or that weekend (weekends are the hardest). So I have not been commenting all that much in the group. But I'll tell you what, it really helps to have that group, just to know there are women, men or spouses out there along with me who I am in the same boat with.
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